Take risks, take lots of them. Do things that you’re afraid to do so that you don’t ever spend a day wondering “what if?”

This has been a truly hard lesson to learn, but the more risks I’ve taken, the more I’ve gotten to know and truly appreciate the person I am, and that is undeniably worth every single risk.

Take chances, take a lot of them. Because honestly, no matter where you end up and with whom, it always ends up just the way it should be. Your mistakes make you who you are. You learn and grow with each choice you make. Everything is worth it. Say how you feel, always. Be you, and be okay with it.

-unknown

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Express yourself.

If you don’t like it when your friends call you on your bullshit, get some cats or maybe a houseplant, or anything that doesn’t have an ounce of intellectual capacity.

But first, remember this important quote by Lady Madonna (yes it’s about soul mates, but its just as relevant for friendships that matter):

There is no such thing as the perfect soulmate. If you meet someone and you think they’re perfect, you better run as fast as you can in the other direction, ‘cause your soulmate is the person that pushes your buttons, pisses you off on a regular basis, and makes you face your shit.

-Madonna

Lesson in dating etiquette, if you like her don’t ignore her witty Christmas text and wait three weeks to contact her.

That shit just don’t fly.

-essay and art by Mike Monteiro.

“Let’s make better mistakes tomorrow. Let’s scratch our heads and give up and wake up and try it again. Let’s fail at digging the well the first three times to get it right the fourth. Let’s build faster horses, and then strap rocket ships onto them. Let’s start a company, let’s watch it fail, and then let’s start another one.

Let’s be the boss. Let’s take the boss down. Let’s order too much of something just to see where our limits are. Let’s take a chance precisely because it might fail. Let’s take the hard way out. Let’s go to the moon. Fuck it; let’s go to the moon again. Let’s quit our jobs. Let’s work at being better at what we do by fucking up faster, not less. Let’s fuck up really fast. Let’s wrestle sharks, fight monsters, and disagree with the board. Let’s borrow so much money it becomes someone else’s problem. Let’s start a 10-hour drive by announcing “I’m not into you anymore.” Let’s  dump everything out of the garage onto the sidewalk and build something really cool in that space. Let’s start out to build a better mousetrap, and halfway there let’s decide to jump on the mice’s team. Let’s bet on a longshot. Let’s buy her a drink. Let’s start baking bread in our cubicle. Let’s try bringing fresh water to distant villages precisely because we have no idea how to do it. Let’s pool our money. Let’s take their money. Let’s solve that hard problem. You know that one that keeps you up at night? Let’s tackle that bastard. Let it kick our ass a few times, and then finally get it right. Let’s find out what’s at the bottom of the ocean. Let’s tame the Kraken. Let’s just fucking tell people we’ve read Infinite Jest and move on. Let’s forgive our parents. Let’s do something with the goddamned planet. Let’s rent an electric generator and open a food cart that sells nothing but frosted PopTarts, but makes a lot of fucking noise. Let’s have a breakthrough. Let’s have a breakdown. Let’s agree that bruises fade, bones heal, hearts mend, and that tomorrow we’re right back on that horse and that this time, THIS TIME! we’ve at least got a rocket strapped to its back.”

Hi Brundiggity,

I need your advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and we’ve only just said the L- word to each other. We talked about taking “the next step” but never really talked about what exactly that means. We see a lot of each other, we’ve met each others families, I really care about him, but I’m not sure I’m ready to take a big leap like moving in together. Is there  a commitment stepladder?

Help!
Looking for a stairway to heaven

Dear Looking,

Life is alot like stairs, there are steps and you climb them towards a destination. But what if you don’t know what the destination is? Or you’re uncertain about whether or not you really want to go there? Or what if you’re just tired of climbing and want to sit down for a while?  Well that’s why there are landings. In life sometimes you need to settle somewhere for a bit, catch your breath and enjoy the scenery, so do that. Don’t worry about the next step and what it is, there is not formal guide for what steps to take and when, you do what you feel is right, when you feel it’s right. So let this step, the L-word, be a landing until you decide whether or not you want to keep climbing.

Love,
Brundiggity