Category Archives: SAGE ADVICE

Risky business

Posted on November 29, 2011 | Leave a comment

Lesson of the day c/o brundiggity:

Take risks, take lots of them. Do things that you’re afraid to do so that you don’t ever spend a day wondering “what if?”

This has been a truly hard lesson to learn, but the more risks I’ve taken, the more I’ve gotten to know and truly appreciate the person I am, and that is undeniably worth every single risk.

Take chances, take a lot of them. Because honestly, no matter where you end up and with whom, it always ends up just the way it should be. Your mistakes make you who you are. You learn and grow with each choice you make. Everything is worth it. Say how you feel, always. Be you, and be okay with it.

-unknown

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work schmork

Posted on February 4, 2011 | Leave a comment

At work I am often referred to as the young and techie. It’s not that I’m particularly technologically apt (although I feel I can hold my own), it’s just that I’m about 20 years younger than almost every other person I work with. That being the case I often find myself in the following very frustrating situation:

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The friend-SHIP is sinking

Posted on January 12, 2011 | Leave a comment

Express yourself.

If you don’t like it when your friends call you on your bullshit, get some cats or maybe a houseplant, or anything that doesn’t have an ounce of intellectual capacity.

But first, remember this important quote by Lady Madonna (yes it’s about soul mates, but its just as relevant for friendships that matter):

There is no such thing as the perfect soulmate. If you meet someone and you think they’re perfect, you better run as fast as you can in the other direction, ‘cause your soulmate is the person that pushes your buttons, pisses you off on a regular basis, and makes you face your shit.

-Madonna

 

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Really?!? Three weeks later?!?

Posted on January 10, 2011 | Leave a comment

Dear Boys,

Lesson in dating etiquette, if you like her don’t ignore her witty Christmas text and wait three weeks to contact her.

That shit just don’t fly.

 

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new year, new mistakes.

Posted on January 2, 2011 | Leave a comment

So I picked up the latest issue of GOOD Magazine I had lying around at home (if you don’t know what this magazine is, you need to familiarize yourself with it ASAP), and flipped to a random page, and the article below is what I found. Hell of a way to start the new year I’d say.

-essay and art by Mike Monteiro.

“Let’s make better mistakes tomorrow. Let’s scratch our heads and give up and wake up and try it again. Let’s fail at digging the well the first three times to get it right the fourth. Let’s build faster horses, and then strap rocket ships onto them. Let’s start a company, let’s watch it fail, and then let’s start another one.

Let’s be the boss. Let’s take the boss down. Let’s order too much of something just to see where our limits are. Let’s take a chance precisely because it might fail. Let’s take the hard way out. Let’s go to the moon. Fuck it; let’s go to the moon again. Let’s quit our jobs. Let’s work at being better at what we do by fucking up faster, not less. Let’s fuck up really fast. Let’s wrestle sharks, fight monsters, and disagree with the board. Continue reading →

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Sage advice #2: Steppin’ on up

Posted on July 15, 2009 | Leave a comment

Hi Brundiggity,

I need your advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and we’ve only just said the L- word to each other. We talked about taking “the next step” but never really talked about what exactly that means. We see a lot of each other, we’ve met each others families, I really care about him, but I’m not sure I’m ready to take a big leap like moving in together. Is there  a commitment stepladder?

Help!
Looking for a stairway to heaven

Dear Looking,

Life is alot like stairs, there are steps and you climb them towards a destination. But what if you don’t know what the destination is? Or you’re uncertain about whether or not you really want to go there? Or what if you’re just tired of climbing and want to sit down for a while?  Well that’s why there are landings. In life sometimes you need to settle somewhere for a bit, catch your breath and enjoy the scenery, so do that. Don’t worry about the next step and what it is, there is not formal guide for what steps to take and when, you do what you feel is right, when you feel it’s right. So let this step, the L-word, be a landing until you decide whether or not you want to keep climbing.

Love,
Brundiggity

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Sage advice #1: I like ‘em Cheap and Dirty

Posted on July 13, 2009 | Leave a comment
And now, the first in a series of answers to your (my loyal 3 readers’) questions:

 
I really like this guy, he has the greatest personality and sense of humor. and i feel completely comfortable talking to him about anything (even seriuos issues). So, ok, he’s not all that and a bag of chips when it comes to looks, but he’s sure as hell not bad looking either. the main issue though is that he still lives at home with his momma and he’s dirt cheap - and has no problem informing everyone else of this (i had to pay for my own meal on our first date)…there are other small issues here and there, but this is the major one…do i move on or stay for the ride?
 
Sincerely Tasha

 
 
 
Dear Tasha,
Does this boy have a job? Generally speaking  that helps in the whole paying for dinner thing. Perhaps he’s recently unemployed, after all we are in a recession, give the guy a break. Unless of course he’s sitting at home waiting for his Lionel Ritchie cover band to get discovered. If this is the case, then I suggest you walk away. Not slowly. Quickly. Very quickly. If he has a job, but is just cheap, well I know it’s crazy,but if you like him, you could embrace your roll as a modern woman and pay your own bill.  Just a thought.
 
Loves ya,
Brundiggity
 
 
 
Hello, is it me youre looking for?

Hello, is it me you're looking for?

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