Category Archives: MUSINGS

What is love?

It’s a song, by J. Lo. Which I am a little bit ashamed to admit is on my top 25 most played on itunes. (BTW isn’t that the most horrible part of itunes? I have the most epically bad taste in music when it comes to what I will listen to on repeat over and over and over again), but back to the point. This song. This song is my life. FACT.

Seriously, who would have thought J. Lo would be the one to hit the nail on the head? I certainly didn’t. Then again, we both know she didn’t write it, so I’m going to believe it was someone with a little more depth. (But really who are we kidding, I’m relating my life to a J. Lo song and somehow judging her for lack of depth.)

It’s also been out for nearly two years, but it’s  on her new album.  Re-release? While I ponder the recyclage, have a listen my pookies. Oh yes, I did just call you that. It’s cause I can’t be bothered to say your names. Also, please note the lyrics. They are of course what I relate to, that and the super catchy na nas.

The name game

Names, they’re kind of important. There are names I want to say in a fit of passion, and there are names I don’t. In fact, there are names I wouldn’t date namely (ha!) because of this. “I’d like to introduce you to my boyfriend Harold”.

I hate to say it, but it matters.

I know this isn’t something parents consider when they are naming their child,  but it certainly should be. Keep it in mind, your child’s future spouse and/or significant other will thank you.

Come to think of it, this might be how lovers nicknames like “pookie” and “baby” became so popular.

And that, ladies and gents, is your etymology lesson of the day.

A bad case of the first dates.

I’ve been on a slew of first dates in the past three months. This isn’t a reason for not posting, my reason for that is that my heart was broken by a douchey boy, and well, after being left broken and vulnerable I had no desire to share my personal experiences. Throwing caution to the wind again now. So, let me do a quick catchup of the past three months. I went to Montreal, had an epically good time, left my voice there and didn’t find it for several weeks thereafter. The rest has been a whirlwind mix of work, life, dates, and some toe-dippping into adulthood (I may have gone see some condos with the intent of purchasing – but that’s a story for another day).

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101 reasons why you suck as a boyfriend

I started to write down a list called 101 reasons why you suck as a boyfriend, I thought it would be therapeutic and frankly, entertaining. I had every intention of posting it and got to just over 40 reasons before deciding that perhaps it wasn’t the best idea. Yes it would be amusing, but that aside, it would also be a constant reminder of all the things I let slip because I so badly wanted for that “relationship” to work (I also didn’t post it because I do want to believe that I’m not in fact that petty, but who knows, maybe I am – a woman scorned and what not).

I never once thought that I could love him, isn’t that bad? There’s something terribly wrong with that picture in my mind. I just needed so badly to feel someone love me, to have that attention just for a fraction of a moment, that I was willing to make concessions on all the other things I wanted from a significant other. Continue reading

lyrics, they’re fun

let’s play a game (since games seem to be the theme of the week), what could I be alluding to in the following three excerpts:

We could have had it all
Rolling in the deep
You had my heart inside of your hands
And you played it
To the beat
-Rolling in the deep, Adele

Que perfeito coração
Morreria no meu peito,
Meu amor na tua mão,
Nessa mão onde perfeito
Bateu o meu coração
-Gaivota, Amalia Rodrigues/Hoje

‘Cause you can grow flowers
From where dirt used to be (…)
I can be alone, yeah
I can watch a sunset on my own
-Merry Happy, Kate Nash

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there’s beauty in the breakdown

Today I wrote down the things that make me sad. Or rather, the one thing that is the root of my deepest sadness. I wrote it down in a special context, as a way of explaining my reactions and providing a history of the person I am to a person who is very recent in my life. I didn’t send it to him, or tell him about it. I just wrote it down. It made me cry; never ceases to. It also made me think about the person I’ve become because of it.

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what does your gut tell you?

Sometimes, maybe. I give people more credit than they deserve.
Sometimes, maybe. I let them get away with things i know I shouldn’t.
I want to believe that I’m not being taken for a fool, but you’re making it very hard.

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turtlenecks, sleeves, hearts and 21

I am at the moment, completely and utterly in love with Adele’s new album 21. It’s soulful, moving and heart-breakingly beautiful. That’s a lot of accolades for someone who very rarely mentions music on this blog. Secret’s out though, I’m kind of obsessed, and not just with Adele. (although you really must give the album a listen it will send shivers down your spine).

Music, in the vast majority of its forms and entities keeps me sane. My ipod is an appendage, loosing it would be like loosing my right leg. Loosing my playlist would probably be the death of me. (It happened once several years ago after a pretty epic virus on the ol’ PC –sidenote: I haven’t had to deal with anything even remotely buggy since switching to Mac.)

In other news, (unrelated but sort of related) I stumbled upon a very interesting blog this evening, Make it Mad. I like when people have opinions. Even if I don’t necessarily agree with everything written on the blog I do very much appreciate the conviction, honesty and humour)with which he writes it. As great as the blog was though, my favourite thing was Max’s short story The Boy with His Heart on His Sleeve and the Girl Who Never Tried to Fix Him. It’s moving,  heart-breakingly beautiful and might even send shivers down your spine. Read it, while listening to 21.

and then comes the calm

What's more happy than a balloon?

My mind was a flurry of activity for such a long time over the past year that I very nearly forgot what it was like to be calm. I’m in a very good place right now, and it’s been far too long since I’ve felt this good. Yes there is room for improvement, there always is;  life isn’t perfect. That’s what makes it fun. (I’m learning this you see, slowly maybe, but baby steps are better than no steps at all.)

What has caused this sudden calmness? A number of things, most of them works in progress, but just knowing that they are in progress is settling. Here’s the top 5 …

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work schmork

At work I am often referred to as the young and techie. It’s not that I’m particularly technologically apt (although I feel I can hold my own), it’s just that I’m about 20 years younger than almost every other person I work with. That being the case I often find myself in the following very frustrating situation:

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