Hi Brundiggity,
I need your advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and we’ve only just said the L- word to each other. We talked about taking “the next step” but never really talked about what exactly that means. We see a lot of each other, we’ve met each others families, I really care about him, but I’m not sure I’m ready to take a big leap like moving in together. Is there a commitment stepladder?
Help!
Looking for a stairway to heaven
Dear Looking,
Life is alot like stairs, there are steps and you climb them towards a destination. But what if you don’t know what the destination is? Or you’re uncertain about whether or not you really want to go there? Or what if you’re just tired of climbing and want to sit down for a while? Well that’s why there are landings. In life sometimes you need to settle somewhere for a bit, catch your breath and enjoy the scenery, so do that. Don’t worry about the next step and what it is, there is not formal guide for what steps to take and when, you do what you feel is right, when you feel it’s right. So let this step, the L-word, be a landing until you decide whether or not you want to keep climbing.
Love,
Brundiggity
